Trey Coleman: Do Black Men Support Black Women?
by Trey Coleman
About two weeks ago, I was having an intense conversation with a good friend of mine regarding black men dating white women. In the conversation, my friend made a profound statement that left me speechless. She stated, “All we hear is that black women are too proud and have too much attitude, but we always stick by our black men. Black Women are on the front line for black men. We are right out there screaming injustice, even if the black man is guilty. Black men complain that black women don’t support them but name a time when black men stood up for black women on the front line, marching for the injustice that is being done to black women?”
Sadly, I could not name a time, so I just stood there dumb founded. The last part of her statement was apropos and it got me to thinking about how far apart we are as a people. It seems like the more black people progressed in this country, the more disjointed the black man and black woman became. We supported each other through slavery and civil rights, but when we were allowed to integrate with the white man, it seems we started running from each other.
We are a community and we need to stop playing t*t for tat. I don’t see other races breaking each other down the way black people do. That starts with the black man and the black woman. There is so much pain and bitterness inside the black man (due to absentee fathers, lack of equal opportunity, no respect at work or in the home), however we will not seek help. Some of us resort to violence, which is detrimental to us. We blame our black women for being too loquacious and having an attitude. So, do we want our women to conceal their emotions and be seen and not heard? In my experience, as blacks, when we get into a position of power and begin to demonstrate a little passion and ambition, we’re labelled as an “angry black man” or an “angry black woman.” As a result, we conceal our passion and speak in a softer tone that’s acceptable. This is a constant struggle within our community, but we must remember we are a product of the same culture/society, so it should be expected that we handle circumstances with the same passion and emotion.
I do agree that some black women can be over the top at times and should stop fearing being the submissive gender. You can be submissive and not be a doormat.
So, when do we start the healing process? Or do we continue this mass exodus to different races? Julie Baumgarder, of First Things Richmond, wrote an article entitled Black Marriage Day-Why Do We Need It?, stated that the latest marriage research shows that marriage in the African-American community is on the decline. Today, African-Americans have the lowest marriage rate of any racial group in the United States. According to the U.S. Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.9 percent of black women in America have never been married compared to 27 percent and 22 percent respectively for whites. In 30 years, the overall marriage rate in the United States declined by 17 percent, but for African-Americans, it fell by 34 percent. We can’t continue to blame society ills for our problems.
We know how we got here, now what are we going to do to correct it?
1. Black women: Do you think you should tone it down or should black men accept you as you are?
2. Black men: Do we support black women like they support us?
3. Black women: Do you think black men fully support you?
4. Black men: Do you find it easier to deal with women of other races? If so why?
5. Were your parents a good example of marriage and/or relationships for you?
My name is Trey Coleman. I’m blogging to give some insight on politics, music and entertainment. I’m a Republican and I believe in capitalism. You can contact me on my website Treystruth.com or follow me on twitter at Treys Truth.
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DERRICK: Do Black Women Support Black Men?
Quit Playin’
I’m going to take up the marriage question first.
Personally I think the question of Black marriage being in decline should not necessarilly be an isolated one as the roots of this issue has many strands that many of us unfortunately are not prepared to look at, the top one being Black self-hatred.
I would say to a fair degree that our issue here is exclusive for apparent & obvious reasons but on a whole we should also look at marriage in the 21st century and why its in decline, period!
In my opinion one of the reasons is because within the western world’s system promiscuity is massively promoted through the media and this as a consequence heavilly impacts on society in general.
Also, western socitey is secular in nature and it does not promote introspection our spiritual inspection of self.
There is hardly any societal mechanisms in place that positively feed the self-accusing spirit or moral conscience and as a result society subtly suggests that there’s no need for one’s immoral behaviour to be checked because this is a freedom that one is privileged to enjoy and exercise in the ‘land of the free’ or in a so-called Democracy.
Here are two questions I would like to ask;
1. Pakistanis & Indians are pretty much pressured into getting married, is anyone aware of the high level of domestic abuse & murder due to ‘honor killings’ which exist within this community, sometimes because affairs take place?
2. Are we aware of the high divorce rates among whites?
The issue concerning the lack of marriage within our community remains in my view principally tragic but I think its also a good idea to look at this particular plight of ours more holistically, and by doing so we would be able to accurately pin-point the real issues which influence an individual/group/race’s choices where fidelity, committment is concerned.
From personal experience, I know that the people of India and Pakistan hate each other. Black Americans, inspite of our problems, are many light years ahead of most foreigners. The foreigners that come to American soil KNOW that if they practice most of the horrible cultural values of their home country they will be jailed or deported. That is why you dont see them betrothing small children at a young age, etc., like they do in their home country.
An Indian woman told me that if her country men knew she went to a Christian Bible study she would be stoned to death.
Another Indian woman I know said her husband made her abort their child because 3 was enough.
Another Indian I know said his ideal wife is a very white Indian. They are more valued than darker Indians.
I know Indians who gain much wealth in this country by illegal means, doing all their business deals UNDER THE TABLE/cutting out the tax man, and evading the system.
I know Indian men beat their wives and they suffer silently because they will be deported.
I know that Indians think marrying a poor white american is preferable to marrying a rich black one.
I know that their food stinks to high heaven LOL
I know that Hindu religion allows India’s to commit any sin that gets them wealth. I have been in their temples.
I have lived among whites most of my adult life. If blacks only knew how miserable they are, how much self hate they have, how they live in constant fear, they would not even want to imitate them. They would pity them. Notice some time when you go in the black community how you will see more people outside enjoying the fresh air, laughing, and living. Then go to the white community where their quest for control of everything around them, even a blade of grass cant grow without permission, and notice how everyone is inside, no laughter, living in a quiet tomb of desperation.
This is truly sad. When reading these comments the first words that come to mind are “reverse racism”. How can we as not black people or white people or any race of people ever hope to make a dent in the war against racism with these types of attitudes. I, personally feel like you should take love no matter what color it comes in. I have no problem with interracial relationships as long as there is true love. Although, I do have a problem with brothers who ‘only” date outside their race, but I consider that a self esteem issue on their part. The other side to that coin is the white woman who latches on to a brother because he has money and wouldn’t give him the time of day if he didn’t. Neither of those scenarios have anything to do with love and are destined to for failure. I’m just saying!!
ITS FUNNY THAT YOU JUST MENTION THE BLACKMALE AND NOT THE BLACKFEMALE THAT DATE OUTSIDE
OF HER RACE.THIS IS A LOT OF BLACKWOMEN PROBLEM IN APPLYING A DIFFERENT SET OF RULES WHEN
IT COMES TO DATEING OUTSIDE OF HER RACE.BLACKWOMAN AINT GOT NOTHING TO SAY WHEN ITS A
BLACKWOMEN DATEING OUTSIDE OF HER RACE,AND AS FAR AS YOUR COMMENT ABOUT INTERRACIAL
RELATIONSHIPS,YOU WOULD HAVE TO EITHER PUT YOUR SELF IN A SETTING OF A DIFFERENT RACE OF
PEOPLE IN ORDER TO END UP IN A INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP,AND MYQEUSETIONS HOW DID YOU GET
THERE AND WHY WAS YOU OVER THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE ?.YOU JUST DONT POP UP IN THE BLACK
COMMUNITY AND DATE SOME WHITE.YOU HAD TO HAVE A RACIST BITTER MIND SET TO GO OUT YOUR
WAY IN THE SETTINGS OF ANOTHER RACE IN ORDER TO DATE ONE.SO DONT GIVE ME IT DONT MATTER
WHAT COLOR.YOU DONT BELIEVE WHAT YOUR SAYING CONSIDERING THE RACIAL ATROCITIES THAT
WE GO THROUGH.WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU WOULD FIND LOVE IN A RACE THAT DISCRIMINATE
AGAINST YOU.THAT IS RETARDED.BLACKWOMEN LIKE YOU ALLOW RACIST REDNECKS TO HAVE s*x WITH
YOU.YOU CALL IT,HE LIKES ME,HE CALL IT RAPE,AND ANOTHER ONE THAT I CONQUERED THROUGH MY
RACE.YELP HE WOULD HAVE s*x WITH YOU,PREGNANT YOU LIKE THE SLAVE MASTERS DID THE SLAVE
WOMEN AS A c*m DISPOSAL,AND HE MIGHT EVEN MARRY YOU,BUT AFTER THE FACT,HE IS NOT
GOING TO STICK AROUND BECAUSE HE DONT WANT TO RAISE BLACK KIDS AND CANT TEACH
A BLACKBOY ABOUT DISCRIMINATION IN A WHITE SOCIETY BECAUSE HE IS NOT BLACK.STOP BEING
DESPERATE AND STUPID.
LOVE is m-o-n-e-y!!!
No need to play around with this topic. First, you say you have no problem with interracial relationships; then you turn around and say, you have a PROBLEM with brothers who ONLY date ‘outside their race’.
It takes ALL kinds to make the world go around. He or she has a choice to date, or marry, whomever they may want in their lives. Some Blacks EXCLUSIVELY date ‘asian, mexican or caucasoid females’ and vice versa; therefore, your statement does not make sense. They’re still dating ANOTHER RACE, regardless. You have female foreigners, who ONLY date Black men…choices!!!
Some men don’t mind ‘sporting a woman’ (paying for it), or they just may like the company of a ‘fine woman’; if he has the dough, he can ‘buy a ho’. BOTTOM LINE!
Look at Puzzy Cat Woods; this TRICK wants to PAY that ‘ho, that whupped his azz, billions of dollars, just to ‘buy her love’!!! Now, that ‘ho is dating an old cracker, who is 53 years old. That makes Puzzy Cat Woods, look like a kitten, instead of a tiger! A TIGER AIN’T WEAK!!!
I repeat love is m-o-n-e-y! When a couple gets together, and they’re living, loving and lolly gaggin’, and having a good time with each other; that grows old WHEN THE MONEY STOPS COMING IN!!! If you or your mate LOSE A JOB watch how the both of you would change in the relationship. NO MONEY…NO HONEY!!!
A woman may claim to ‘love’ a man, but you must OVERstand, you have some women out here, who can run more game than monopoly on a brother!!! They can ‘love’ you so much, you’ll end up broke! Some women only love a man’s MONEY instead of his soul/spirit! This is also, a two-way street! A man can bankrupt a woman with game; then split.
I remember, when famlies STAYED TOGETHER FOR BETTER OR WORSE. I know families, who let close friends and relatives live with them until they got on their feet. I remember when we ate TOGETHER at the dinner table with my family, and my Dad ALWAYS sat at the head! Now, they seldom make houses with a dining room…it’ now the den, bedroom or basement, which separates a family! THE RESULTS ARE BEFORE US, WHICH IS DIVISION AND SEPARATION!!!
These family values are no longer being practiced, and this is why ‘material love’ (idolatry) is the new way to ‘buy a wife’, ‘buy a girlfriend’, or ‘even, ‘buy a date’!!!
IT’S ALL ABOUT THAT CABBAGE (money).
Doesn’t a ‘john’ buy ‘love’ in exchange for se.x?
Therefore, love is m-o-n-e-y!!! NO MATTER HOW YOU LIVE IT!!!
Yet…you use a racial slur!! You sound very ignorant!
Is it the racial slur that you believe makes him look ignorant without seeing him? Or was it the truth that you feel the need to walk around with your blinders on – again not seeing?
Just two questions…
“I remember, when famlies STAYED TOGETHER FOR BETTER OR WORSE. I know families, who let close friends and relatives live with them until they got on their feet. I remember when we ate TOGETHER at the dinner table with my family, and my Dad ALWAYS sat at the head!”…DAMMMMMMMMMMM I agree 1000%. In today’s economy this may be a little difficult 7 days a week, however, if a family can manage just one day (Sunday) to dine together it would be a positive start for black families and marriages!
I didnt realize it when my son was growing up, but dining together is one of the most important things that keep families together.
When you’re eating you cant be angry.
When you’re eating it forces conversation about the days events.
When you’re eating, you are bonding as a pack/family.
I didnt realize it when my son was growing up, but dining together is one of the most important things that keep families together.
When you’re eating you cant be angry.
When you’re eating it forces conversation about the days events.
When you’re eating, you are bonding as a pack/family.
Interesting perspectives but we “black men” do support our women. I will not engage in a finger pointing diatribe but what I will say is that the solutions to this challenge exists within our own community. It’s a black thing you have to understand.
Black men support black women? Where? On what planet? Certainly not here…never do I see any black man giving or offering any kind of support to ANY black woman…
1. I don’t understand the “loud Black women” charge. Black women are the most likely to be abused and killed by an intimate partner. Black women continue to make less than whites as well as Black men (when they work). Black girls continue to be molested by ‘mommy’s boyfriend’. Black women continue to have the most unemployed men of all groups of women. What are Black women “loud” about? If we are loud, apparently nobody hears us or gives a d**n.
3. Many Black women have been made to feel uncomfortable asking for Black men’s “support”. We’ve been made to feel “eurocentric” if we want the same things other women want from their men. When we do speak against our own mistreatment we’re accused of being “feminists” – and therefore not worthy of being heard. The difference in the rates of outside marriages pretty much answers question 3 along with the marriage rate itself. Plenty of black males willing to make mothers but not wives.
BLACKWOMEN ARE POWERFUL WOMEN,THIS IS THE REASON WHY YOU ALL ARE SO STRONG,BUT SO
RELIGIOUS,AND SO DISOBEDIENT TO GODS WORD.YOU WOULD GO TO CHURCH,AND LISTEN TO THE
WORD OF GOD,BUT WILL NOT FOLLOW IT IN ORDER TO GET YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR BUSINESS.YOU DONT
FIT INTO REGULAR SOCIETY BECAUSE YOU ARE GODS CHOSEN PEOPLE,AND UNTIL YOUR OBEDIENCE
TO HIM THROUGH THE DEMONSTRATIONS OF JESUS CHRIST,SEEKING HIM THROUGH PRAYER, AND FASTING, AND ASKING FOR THE HOLYGHOST.YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GO THROUGH THE FIRE BECAUSE
YOU BELONG TO GOD AND NOT TO THIS WORLD.DID NOT SCIENTIST FIND THE OLDEST LIVEING WOMAN
NAMED LUCY,DID NOT THE SCIENTIST FIND THROUGH MITOCHONDRIA EVE DNA IN ALL RACES WENT
BACK TO BLACK WOMEN,AND ALSO IN YOUNG BLACKMAN SCIENTIST FOUND A CROMOSOME DNA THAT
WENT BACK 800.000 YRS THAT TRUMPED ANY OTHER SCIENTIST IN THE WORLD THAT LEAD TO A BLACK RACE BEFORE THE TIME OF ADAM AND EVE.BLACKMEN WILL STOP BEING THE WAY THAT YOU
DISAGREE WITH THROUGH THE LORD,NOT BY JUST GOING TO CHURCH,BUT THROUGH A SECRET
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.I AM NOT PERFECT,BUT I KNOW THE POWER OF PRAYER THROUGH
A PRIVATE PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.PRAY THREE TIMES A DAY IN A CLOSET WITHOUT
ANYBODY KNOWING AND WATCH HOW THINGS CHANGE FOR YOU.THIS TYPE OF ACTIVITY WILL CHANGE THAT MOLESTING BOYFRIEND,DEADBEAT DAD,JOBLESS MOTHER.GOD WILL PROVIDE,I PUT
ON EVERYTHING,EVENTHOUGH I AM DISOBEDIENT BUT WHEN I WAS OBEDIENT,THATS WHAT GOD DONE
FOR ME AND HE WILL DO IT FOR YOU.
Love is m-o-n-e-y? I see a certain truth in that we are willing to work and support those we truly love. When you love someone you don’t watch them go to work everyday and sit on the couch smoking weed or playing video games. When you love a child you don’t quit a job because your pride has been scratched. When you love your family you withstand the humiliation of taking care of another woman’s children while being disrespected and otherwise abused. When you love someone you don’t want their stress level elevated every month with worry about the rent being paid. A pregnant woman who is loved is not waddling onto the subway to a job at 8 and half months – her partner loves her enough to financially support her time off. So yeah, I can see how love is money – certainly to some extent.
1. Black women: Do you think you should tone it down or should black men accept you as you are?
I am not a Black Woman, however I do feel as though some Black women could do well with turning down the attitude. First and foremost we are supposed to be a team and if we are to win the war being waged against us then we cannot perpetuate a war within.
2. Black men: Do we support black women like they support us?
This varies from individual situations and I find that I have supported Black women more than I have received overall. Granted, I do not feel that this case is a representation of the entirety, however I will not resort to blaming anyone as I love Black women unequivocally.
3. Black women: Do you think black men fully support you?
Again… not a Black woman, however the ones that I have encountered have stated appreciation for the support that I have given.
4. Black men: Do you find it easier to deal with women of other races? If so why?
Circumstances have to be good in other situations for this one to be true. Women of other races are not necessarily the issue, but rather the situations that those interactions may present such as biases from family and/or friends of the woman of different background. Family of the woman can sometimes be judgmental (even Africans) of the Black American male which can prove to be more burdensome than the attitudes of some Black females. I would suggest that open communication be the first line of defense against these biases because as we can see with some other commentary from Black males and females, the finger pointing is continuing, however in order to develop solutions, acceptance of one’s own faults or at least admitting to their possibility of this is a good start. After that… conversation and honest dialogue can be had about overcoming the obstacles that are being faced individually and how they can be overcome cooperatively.
5. Were your parents a good example of marriage and/or relationships for you?
Yes and no. Difficult question to answer, however long story short is that learning from the mistakes and successes of the past can be a large part of success in your own life.
Sidenote:
Given the high unemployment and underemployment rates for the African American community, it is evident even in the statistics that marriage is not always economically affordable and therefore may take longer to arrive at that point. More figures point to the fact that Blacks are marrying at later ages in life for the sake of building independence and the ability to provide.
Love is definitely money in our Society—there is no other way to go—without money you cannot exist in America—self preservation takes top billing–there are many ways to make money without being married–marriage equals boredom to some free thinkers, Tina Turner’s “What’s Love Got To Do With It” is a truth many folk deny everyday, because of some cultural beliefs or some other kind of teachings–in America we seem to only understand a limited amount of knowledge on how we can live as a WHOLE person creating our own situations for happiness (other than being gay)–PEACE!!!!
I feel some black women can tone down the attitudes and some black men can support black women not pretending we have no problems. Saying SOME because I know this isn’t every black man/woman. Desiring we as a people to get back to the roles we were created for. Male ba a man take care of your family with love and respect. Female be a woman and not desire to be the man and take on everything nor birth children by differrnt men.
I don’t see this changing anytime soon! Blacks hate Blacks period, we degrade one other while putting other races on a pedestal to revere and admire, all the while hating each other! No use talking about it! Black Americans are just hateful to one another and no one else! Get use to it!
I am a black woman who loves and am being loved by a black man. What I see missing in black man-woman relationships is respect. I am thoroughly convinced that most of us cannot define the word. I can walk down any city street and see a lack of respect for one’s self in the young black girls and boys, adult women and men– foul language hurled about as if there is no impact, bad manners, etc. Some of you may protest that this is completely off topic. But these same young people will grow up to be adults who cannot obtain and then maintain solid, healthy relationships. Tone down? Absolutely! But how can black women tone down when they do not even recognize the need to do so? Loud, rude, pushy, overbearing, demanding, argumentative are not words that are synonymous with the phrase “strong black woman.” I have never used “strong black woman” to describe myself and probably never will (that’s another subject). I have listened to black men and teens and the resounding anthem I keep hearing is that they are suffocating. They need our love and continued support from the cradle to the grave and we need them, too. This may sound silly to many or even most black women, but I have personally found that a soft approach and good measure of my own personal self-esteem (self-respect) without all of the loudness and angry banter lifts his spirit. It is work because he has had lots of bumps and bruises along the way. But, I would not be investing in him if I did not believe in him and he trusts me. Black men have received a lot of constant criticism and that hurts them. Just think what they would do with some ever-present, positive feedback for a change. Perhaps not just yet, but black men can become capable of fully supporting us black women. We black women have much to work on, as well.
I wanted to add that having parents (mother) to model myself after has been a huge influence in how I conduct myself in my relationship. My father’s overt head-of-household status, work ethic, romantic gestures toward my mother, etc, have all helped me know what to look for in a man and to regocnize what might be lacking. Learning to solve problems that crop up is one of the most valuable things I learned from both parents. The black man I love did not grow up with his father’s influence, unfortunately. He was clueless on what to do with me for the longest! He simply didn’t know what to do because there was such a big void and it comes out as anger or rejection– not at me, but it is definitely there.
Regarding other races– One can’t help who he/she falls in love with (if we are talking real love here). People will get with people from other races and sometimes it is for reasons other than “love”– status, money, opportunity to do something unexpected, curiosity, spite, and any other number of reasons. I do not think black men as a whole endeavor or have some agenda to be with women from other races. Perhaps they go where they feel wanted/needed/loved/desired at the time. Either way, I have not felt the offense by it that some of my girlfriends seem to.
I WONDER IF DERRICK HAS AN JOB!HE IA ALWAYS ON THIS SITE! d**n!
I whole heartily supported a group of black women on a job once; I left standing alone and almost lost my job. I am very careful now.
Treyn you and the other black males who said that black women don’t support black women and shoule be “submissive” are a joke.
Black women are LOYAL, SUPPORTIvE (financially and otherwise) to a fault.
Too many of you are self loathing to a point of patheticness and take your self hate out on your women and children because you don’t have theballs to fight your real enemies so you worship, overpay for and “sunmit” to them – let’s not get it crooked.
A lie is a lie is a lie and you well know that more black women should have enough self respect to call you volunteer slaves who love the women who give birth to your worse enemy more than you do the black women who give birth to you and your children while routinely disrespecting, belittling, snubbing and showing disdain for your female mirror.
Now submit to those truths traitorm
Meant to say that black women are loyal to thankless black males to a fault (black men excluded from this declaration as we should be loyal and devoted to one another if black folks were in their right state of mind rather than insane and in denial about it).
Can someone explain to me what you mean by “support”? I see black people throw this word around and are very vague when they use it. I think people like to use this word because it looks and sounds good. Without metaphors and without harping on what people back in the day did, can someone explain how black women “of today” are supporting black men and how black men “of today” are not supporting black women as people claim?
As many picket lines as I’ve been on in support of black men, I’m not interested in their wining about lack of support from black women. Black men barely support themselves let alone black women. When their was an incident of white workers hanging nooses down at the Comcast Center in Philly, the rally was attended by mostly black women. Some of us even took off from work to attend. Where were the black men? I personally don’t look for their support, as they are weak with the heads up their a***s.
The reasons appear to be multifaceted , but on the surface many black men who want other than a Black (unlike Ice Cube) feel the white skinned person is more attractive, will do anything s****l he wants. The excuse from Black men used to be the white women would readily give oral s*x. Today it appears that some Black women have gravitated to this as if it puts them in a competitive arena for the Black man who is just not attractive to the Black woman. Some Black men say the Black woman is too argumentative, does not support him ( not meaning financially, but goals and dreams and “having his back”). These are excuses for a black man who unlike Ice Cube, just prefers the other women. There is no need for those Black men to put the Black woman down because of a preference. No other race man does this when he dates or marries outside of his race.
You will not hear the white man putting the white women down saying things like she is a pitiful weak woman who can’t even hold the fort down if something happens to me, she does not have a mind of her own, she has fake breast and fake buttock, I can’t kiss her without thinking how many male s*x organs has been in her oral cavity. You hear the American Black men putting Black women down by saying they have weaves, too argumentative, too many baby daddies etc.
Lets be honest here: it is not good for young Black girls to see a famous rapper, basket ball player, foot ball player, singer be proud to parade around be with a woman who has an other than reputable character and is proud of video evidence of her s****l exploits.
There is nothing wrong with two people of different ethnicities falling in love and making it happen.
Precious jewels are deep in the earth and have to be excavated: pebbles and rocks are readily seen and no matter what gold paint is applied, it’s still a pebble and a rock . We ( mothers and fathers) have to teach our young girls they are precious jewels because the world is not going to do this.
I am glad I had a father growing up who did not ruin me to thinking negative about the Black man or have me thinking I could use s*x t manipulate a man. There are Black men and women who are just wonderful to each other as well there are those who are not. We have to have the capacity to differentiate between the two.
I am seeing a trend where Black women are beginning to branch out into other cultures, but I don’t think the majority who are doing it are putting the Black man down.
The bottom line is there are good and bad people, there are negative and positive people. There are people who should be together and there are people who should never be with anyone. I have been young and now I am older and my greatest fear is not wether a man thinks high of me, or being embroiled in continual controversy of the Black and white issue that needs to be handled at birth or youth, but it is the fear of having The Lords joy taken away from me.
Without getting to heavy into this, I will say that positivity never makes the headlines. The brothers who are doing it, and supporting their women, are out here and living it daily. But no one talks about that.
Incidentally, the part that says that a higher percentage of Black men and women are not married at a given time may also indicate a delay in the decision to get married. While I know my experience isn’t enough to explain the whole, majority of my colleagues got married in their late twenties/early 30s so that they could be done with educational goals. That would, in essence, increase the percentage of “never been married” folks if you survey a hefty percentage of those individuals. So maybe that is playing a factor…
But that is just an opinion, and I am sure there are other ways to look at that.
When i was a young man growing up in Los Angeles,i did not give myself the chance to date much. I had a strong and god fearing mother, and a father at home.And at that time the black women is what i wanted. at age 17 the year 1976 there were many young lady, but at that time i did not have the so call rap game, are am not fine, are i was to black, remember them days black men? when i met a young ladie at that age i was not talking about s*x, i was talking about the future, my planes her planes,most of them did not want to here about that. they could not see that far ahead. So i left home at the age of 19yers old. (ARMY TIME) to see the world,at the same time missing my black sister. (Germany). WOW that was the place we called (Black Man Heaven).were a black was treated very well,it made me wish i could have found this in the sister at home. (Strong)never dated a German girl. Still looking for that sister and they were in germany also. (QUEENS FOR A YEAR ARE THREE) Black men you heir me? Moved on to korea, And i found in a young womem that only knew how to say Hello and my Name. and in her was what ive been looking for. at the age of 23 and she was 25.And she is still my wife to this day. As a young black man i wanted a young black sister that had inside her what my wife has to this day. All Black men not looking for the (OTHER) but you can be sure,when he dose find her he will know she is the one. And my wife is (KOREAN).Still to the day young black women still looking for that black man for the wrong reasons. (BECAUSE HE FINE,HE CAN s*x IT UP GOOD,) And at the same time he cant even spell his on name, No Job, No schooling, so how he gonna support you sister.
Hmmmmm am only 24 I love a good debate wish alot more of black youth`s could read blog`s like this on a daily that would help the many few like me that are willing to listen and do what`s right to have this type of love just for being black