Lolo Jones has recently started to question whether it is a good idea to be so open and vocal about her decision to honor her religious beliefs and remain a virgin until she gets married.
The Olympic star has decided to tone it down because of the amount of media attention she got for making a Twitter announcement that she was a virgin and would remain one until she got married. Many people criticized her for making the announcement saying that she needed to keep her private life to herself and that seems to be why she is now thinking twice about whether or not the announcement was such a good idea.
Those that criticize Jones for making her announcement must have missed the great value that Jones added to what our youth are constantly bombarded with-s*x, s*x, s*x! It is actually refreshing to hear from women like Lolo Jones and Meagan Good, with platforms and visibility to millions of impressionable young women (and men), who use their platforms to say that young women can honor and respect their bodies enough to wait for the right time and the right person to share that special bond with.
What I love about Jones and Good is that both women speak about their choices and in holding themselves to a high standard, encourage others to do the same. They do not get on shows and stages and chastise, criticize and judge those that have not made the same choices as them, but instead focus on their message and relay it in a very positive and palatable way.
Jones may decide to tone down her conservative message but I believe that she should not. For every young woman that stands up and says she is going to preserve herself, spiritually, and in this day and age of epidemic levels of sexually transmitted diseases, health-wise, there are ten more who are boldly talking about their “freedom” and “s****l liberation”.
The problem with all this “s****l liberation” is that statistics show that most people who have it really do not use it wisely. The number of people suffering from HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases has risen to alarming levels, especially among Black men and women. The number of children who are forced to grow up in unplanned single parent homes, which increase the possibility of falling into poverty, is sad.
We all have God-given free will and no one has the right to take that from us once we reach the maturity to walk away from our parents covering and start to make our own decisions but when our choices are being influenced by people who encourage violence, irresponsible child bearing and we end up in massive poverty, we can not try to stifle the voices of those that encourage us to explore a different path.
Not everyone wants Lolo Jones to be quiet; some of us applaud her and wish she would speak out even more. All scales need to be balanced and unfortunately for many Black communities across the country, they are tipped on to the side of self-destruction and a lack of willingness to make the necessary changes. There aren’t enough public figures like Lolo Jones and Meagan Good tipping the scales in the direction of self love, patience and self preservation.
Let’s encourage young women like Lolo Jones to speak up Loud and Proud.
Nomalanga helps Black Women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , Assistant Professor of Professional Studies and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s blog at successfulblackwoman.com