Dr. Boyce: Survey Says Black Men Far More Promiscuous Than Black Women

by Dr. Boyce Watkins

Trojan, the company that makes the little packets that might save your life, just did a survey on the thing they know best.  The researchers came to some interesting conclusions that got my attention.  The results are especially thought-provoking in light of what’s been happening with STDs and unwanted pregnancies in the African American community.

Dr. Tyreese Gaines summarizes some of the results for TheGrio.com, at least those that pertain to “us.”

  • Men think about s*x 17 times a day, compared to 5 times a day for women.
  • Men have had, on average, 38 s*x partners in a lifetime, compared to 10 among women.
  • Almost half of men wish s*x lasted longer, compared to one-third of women.
  • More than half of women have faked an o****m, compared to 18 percent of men.

The first stat got my attention, that men think about s*x more than women.  I’ve always believed that men and women both love s*x, but men seem to be the ones who allow it to get them into the most trouble.  The stat that jumped out off of the page and into my face was the one that said that most black men have had 38 s*x partners in their lifetime, compare to 10 for women.  If these numbers are accurate, they are entirely too high.

A study by the Kinsey Institute says that the average male between the ages of 30 and 44 has 6 – 8 s*x partners during that time.  A study by the Center for Disease Control says that the average American man has 7 s*x partners in his lifetime, and the average woman has just four.   This means that for the population at large, if the study is to be believed, most Americans have far less s*x than black people, and the gap between men and women is not nearly as great.

I am not here to attack, bible thump or pretend that anyone is perfect, but if you’re seeing what I’m seeing, you’re probably as disturbed as I am.  Somehow, someone spread the ridiculous lie that it makes sense to have s*x with two or three people per year, and that as long as you put on a condom, you can do whatever, wherever, with whomever.  I’m sorry folks, but that’s just not the case.

When one considers the rampant spread of HIV, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Herpes, and HPV being spread through the black female population, we’d be silly not to link this spread to the behavior of heterosexual black men.  Every time a little black boy turns on TV or the radio, he usually hears some hip hop artist telling him how many women he slept with last week.  This built-in hypermasculinity, along with numerical imbalances between non-incarcerated (or educated) black men and women, can cause some men to lose their d**n minds and keep a Rolodex as thick as a phone book, filled with readily-available s*x partners.

Women can’t be let off the hook either.  The black female fascination with the gay, downlow boogeyman can often cause them to make themselves vulnerable to the heterosexual man who sleeps all over the place.    If your man is sleeping with you and he hasn’t been to the doctor since he was a newborn, you are asking for problems.    A man whose genitals have been all over the world and back probably has some kind of venereal disease, so putting his s*x organ anywhere in your body (there are multiple places it might go) can cause you a world of problems.  What’s unfortunate is that the women who’ve been hit by the STD epidemic don’t exactly wear t-shirts announcing their status, so young women never get to learn from the mistakes of those before them.

Lower marital rates in the black community also play a role in what’s been happening, but it’s hard to convince people to do something that doesn’t work half the time.  At the same time, we must be mindful that an unmarried person usually has more s*x partners than a married one (at least that’s the way it’s supposed to be).  Black women don’t have nearly as many eligible men as white women, largely because of the criminal justice system issuing life sentences served to keep these men from ever having the ability to support a family.  Additionally, poor educational systems and employment discrimination create a world where its easier for a black man to find a gun, a mic or a basketball than it is for him to find a good education and gainful employment.

While getting married may not be the answer for you, we have to remember that our bodies are prizes to be protected and only shared in mature situations that might be safe.  This is a tough rule to stick by, but one can’t condone the flippant engagement in something as powerful as the human reproductive process.    s*x is the foundation of the creation of all human life, so it is nothing to be toyed around with.

The results are what they are, and we can leave it to each individual to interpret the study.  But the truth is that what you do in the bedroom can kill you these days, so following the crowd might be just a little bit ‘ignant.’  Let’s rise above the madness.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with Your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.


36 Responses to Dr. Boyce: Survey Says Black Men Far More Promiscuous Than Black Women

  1. In this country we have a “National Smoke-out Day” where we ask individuals to stop smoking for one day. I suggest that we have a “National No s*x Day” where we ask all Americans who are not legally married to abstain from s****l activity for one day. This means no Pre-marital s*x. No adultery. No homosexuality. for one day.

    • HIV is synthetic. It has been developed over a number of years and it has an affinity for people of color. What the science and medical evidence concludes is that the HIV enzyme seeks out a receptor site in the blood of the Black genome. The receptor site is the CCR5 Delta 32+ (positive) gene that all people of color have. In the same sense, on the other end of the spectrum, is the 15 percent Caucasian population of the world, which is CCR5 Delta 32-(negative) gene. That means that under no circumstances, whether HIV came through the air, intravenous drug usage or any form of s****l activity, would the virus be transferable in Caucasian sector of the world’s population, which is basically of northern European descent.

      It is speculated by some experts that, in a worse case scenario, 85 percent of the world’s population could potentially perish under these designer viruses and designer synthetic biological agents. What we’re looking at here—because of this identified gene of the Black genome, this CCR5 Delta32+ (positive)—we are potentially looking at the eradication of all people of color.The bible states “My people perish for lack of knowledge. The true devil doesn’t wear red tights, a cape with horns protruding from his forehead instead, the devil incarnate are diabolical Caucasian scientist (men and women) in white lab coats.

      • No BigWill, it is not “synthetic”. The reason that black people have more HIV/AIDS than their hispanic and white counterparts was well outlined in this article — it’s called behaviour. The article carefully avoided the gay thing: while a**l s*x between men occurs in ony a tiny percentage of people of any race, black men are 50% more likely to have a**l s*x with another man than are hispanic or white men. And since male-male a**l s*x is the #1 way to get HIV/AIDS, that too impacts the numbers.

        On the continent of Africa (where mostly black people live), the belief that having s*x with a young virgin will “cure” AIDS has led to an epidemic of child rape and consequently, and epidemic of AIDS.

        • lol, Really, me112233? That’s your answer? some White folks give you a “ball park” estimate about what every black person in America is doing, and you just believe it? Really? But, you are making “BigWill” look like he’s ignorant. GTFOH. Why don’t you try looking up “CCR5-Delta 32″ up before you just start spewing statistical nonsense. Why don’t you look up “Dr. Boyd E. Graves,” or his book he wrote speaking about how he found out that the Gov’t administered AIDS to kill off the Black population. No, but you will quote some BS statistics, that you probably got from a WHITE owned company, “Trojan”, instead of doing your own research. Those White Eurocentrics will tell you people anything, and you just go right ahead and believe it. Statistics are NOT accurate, they take anywhere between, 10-1,000 people and ask them some questions, and base those answers on the entire country, and then turn around and say this is everyone in AMERICA. That’s the dumbest BS I have ever heard. And, you need to do a little more research before you make these types of blogs. Please stop believing everything the white man tells you, White is not right…eventually you will find out how wrong they truly are. WAKE UP!

  2. So all men are not dogs just some men are roosters crowing early in the morning in another woman bed or doing something wild

  3. I think that some entrepreneur should come up with a s*x drive on-off switch which can be inserted in the body.

    The problem is that one would be tempted to leave it in the ‘off” position, what with all the trouble the s*x drive can get one into.

    Blessed are those with little or no s*x drive, for their progeny likely shall not inherit the earth.

    • Well, if the did, I bet Obama would say that the entrepreneur didn’t really invent it, goverment did, and then tax the guy to death.

  4. Today most people don’t have a clue on who or what The Kinsey Report did for society. I am glad that its highlighted some should peruse and learn. A part 2 of the Kinsey Report with today’s ills should be conducted, because people are out of control behaving as if their dogs in heat.

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  6. I’m not entirely sure that these numbers are accurate especially considering that many males like to brag about the “conquests” that they have had. There’s also the fact that many women do not like to put their “numbers” out there like that either so… it becomes a rather interesting situation.

    I will suffice this to say that if the numbers are accurate then there truly are some things that need to be addressed in terms of priorities in our community.

  7. It takes 2 to tango. This just demonstrates a ratio of 3.8 Black Women for every Black Man. If that ratio is not correct then sombody’s lying about the number of partners they’ve had. It’s common for Men to brag, but it’s also common for Women to low ball the number of partners they’ve had. Stats really cant be trusted.

  8. “Dr. Boyce: Survey Says Black Men Far More Promiscuous Than Black Women.” DUH!

  9. Nice try folks. Black women are out there too.

    First of all, black women are some of the biggest liars you will ever meet. There line is always,”I can’t remember the last time I had a date”.

    Second, black women have the highest rate of hiv in the U.S. population. So, they are obvuiously sleeping around.

    Third, black women are regulars at strip parties. And we know what that means.

    Finally, black men have to be sleeping with somebody…duhhhh.

    Again, nice try. Sanctified and “I only go to work and church” is a bunch of b.s.

    • Aw you poor pathetic black man…why don’t you grow a pair you f*****g statistic and shut the h**l up!!!!

  10. “Finally, black men have to be sleeping with somebody…”

    1. white women
    2. hispanic women
    3. asian & other women
    4. white men
    5. hispanic men
    5. black men
    6. asian & other men

    And then they come back with all the nasty diseases and give it to black women.

  11. A study by Trojan? The corporation that makes condoms? Who puts their largest size, “Magnum”, in a black package? Come on. It’s hard enough to get studies done at universities and at the NIH to be accurate when it does studies on black people. Are you kidding me?

  12. I question the accuracy of these stats also. However, s*x, unfortunately, is touted by too many rappers, targeting a vulnerable audience of men who think they have no other way to prove themselves except s****l “conquests”.

  13. but aint it the truth? remember, black men have wide array of women to choose from. every girl wants to try out a black man. white, asian, hispanic, lol.

  14. Give me a break, there is no way trojan could have done a study on black men or black people in general. Everyone know that all statistics are bias and the individuals that are conducting then are bias. We need to stop printing this garbage that white Americans are putting out there about us, info that we ourselves have no access to and they sure would not. All men black and white have more s*x then women and we know that.

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  16. Big Will, you said “HIV is synthetic.” If synthetic means “fake,” I agree. There is no solid science verifying its existence. HIV antibody tests measure SOMETHING that is endemic not epidemic and is certainly not infectious. Immune deficiencies exist but none have been shown to be infectious. The most lethal thing about “HIV” — aa meme NOT a virus—-is the drugs that destroy kidney function.

    • Cree Seven, what a dumb azz response! So I suppose that all of the people that died while I was their case manager or or patient advocate and all of the other deceased died from or were affect by nothing? Stupid is as stupid does, I certainly hope that YOU AIN’T having unprotected s*x. Just no excuse for such sadness!

  17. Survey you say and you took the time to print this. You sadden me that you believe this. Blacks or etc are they’re worse enemy.

  18. Oh and you show white people in the picture??

  19. ladies get yourself a s*x toy some aa,aaa batteries

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