Dr. Christina Edmondson writes about the importance of thinking through the way we discipline our children. Many of us grow up with old school values, being taught that children should be controlled rather than loved.
Dr. Edmondson seeks to persuade all of us to think about the way our kids are being raised, to learn the value of patience and understanding over simply “beating sense into them” and creating an in-house dictatorship.
The conversation on parenting is relevant in light of the recent arrest of Pastor Creflo Dollar for allegedly punching and choking his daughter. Pastor Dollar has denied the charge, but even if he is guilty, his entire congregation thinks that the daughter is either lying or that she deserved what she got.
First things first, whenever you talk about childrearing tactics and philosophies you should be prepared for a great deal of push back. Why? Well, talking about how people raise their kids is like indirectly talking about how they too were raised. Simply put, you are now talking about their momma and as the line goes, “them fighting words.” So, before it goes there, let’s just take a minute to agree that the Christian parent wants what God wants for their child and we need His Word and Spirit, and the support of the local Church to get there.
Most folks’ parenting styles are shaped by a desire to either live up to a parent or avoid turning into a parent. Just like sin, our issues too will find us out and parenting can be a 3-D movie showcasing our unresolved past hurt. The good thing for Christian parents is that the Bible is not silent about the clear, God-given mandate parents have to raise their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Scripture also emphasizes the importance of disciplining our children and states without reservation that to not discipline them is to demonstrate that we do not love them. However, where the controversy arises is over the term “discipline.”